This is my first post on this Meta and on this SE, so apologies if this is out-of-scope. Feel free to delete / close / downvote, but any advice is appreciated.
The context of this post is the latest blog post:
Stack Overflow Isn’t Very Welcoming. It’s Time for That to Change.
I come from StackOverflow (the programming sibling) and have noticed that there is a huge variation in what people consider welcoming / helpful responses to SO questions and sarcy / dismissive responses. The same response is considered by one set as the former and another set as the latter!
In the end, it becomes a long-winded argument with no answer. I have a specific question about whether the tone of an answer is dismissive / disrespectful. I'm not talking about dictionary definitions of words used, but specifically about whether sarcasm / irony in a dismissive tone is evident in an answer. Is this in scope for StackExchange English Language & Usage? I considered Interpersonal Skills, but I'm not sure it's a good fit there either.
I can either link to a specific question & answer, or paste it into a question.
For reference, this is the answer I would want considered.
Note: this is not about moderation, it's about considering whether and how we can improve the way we communicate. If the consensus is the answer is well-meaning and welcoming, so be it - no work needs to be done.
It's even "rather important" to know how to change the oil in your car.But forget about the question, that's another question (should an answer's tone reflect the question's tone?). My question is specifically about the answer. A question full of swearing may justify an answer full of swearing, but that's not what I'm asking.